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You've been holding it together for so long. Now it's time to be held by you.

I'm creating something for us - a space to exhale, to remember, and to fall in love with who you're becoming.

A 90-Day Guided Journal & Shared Community for women learning not to fix themselves, but to meet the version of themselves they've never had the chance to be.

You know that feeling when everyone thinks you have it all together,
but you're barely keeping your head above water?

You're the friend everyone calls at 2am. The daughter who never asks for help. The mother who handles everything so no one else has to worry. The partner who keeps the peace. The one who always has a solution. And you're absolutely exhausted from being
everyone's savior except your own.

Everyone thinks you're doing amazing. You have a good job, you show up for people, you handle your business, you have somewhere to live. You tell yourself you should be more grateful. That other people have it worse. That maybe you just need to stop comparing your life to others.

So why do you still feel like you're drowning in your own life?

IT DIDN'T HAPPEN ALL AT ONCE, IT HAPPENED:

Every time you stayed with someone who only loved you when it was convenient
Every time you stayed loyal to people who vanished when you needed them
Every time you smiled through another day at a job that was slowly killing your spirit
Every time you carried everyone's pain while swallowing your own
Every time you carried the financial weight while others lived carefree
Every time you said "someday" to the things that used to excite you

You became the strong one. The dependable one. The fixer.
The woman who smiled while she was drowning.

"I know because I was her too."

I spent years being who I thought I should be, until the day it all fell apart.

I kept myself busy being single, doing things I loved, living my life, serving God. Being a giver and a nice person had gotten me nice things - a good job, a nice place, good friends. But beneath it all, I felt lonely and empty. I'd spent years as the funny friend, watching love happen to other people while I remained safely on the sidelines. But as I grew into myself and became more confident, everything changed. Suddenly I wasn't invisible anymore - I was seen, desired. I didn't just want to be wanted though - I wanted to be truly loved for who I really was.

Then I met someone who, at the time, felt safe. For the first time, I felt cared for and genuinely loved. It felt peaceful, almost like everything I’d been waiting for. I saw potential and wanted to protect it, to help it grow. So when things started feeling uncertain, I didn’t walk away, I tried harder. I told myself that love required patience, that endurance was strength, and that if I just kept giving, everything would eventually fall into place.

So I did what I’d always done, I gave more. I tried harder. I sacrificed pieces of myself to keep the peace, until every boundary I thought I had quietly disappeared. That’s when it hit me, this wasn’t new. I’d been rehearsing this role my entire life: the friend who dropped everything to help, the daughter who smoothed over family tension, the woman who thought love meant disappearing a little at a time.

I bent myself backward trying to hold everyone together, believing that my worth lived in how much I could endure, how much I could give, and how little I could need. When I started to sink under the weight of it all, I felt guilty for reaching for air.

"That's when I realized: this isn't living. This is emotional survival. I had become everything to everyone... but never enough to myself."

It took losing myself completely to understand that love isn't supposed to cost you your identity. That somewhere along the way, I'd confused devotion with self-destruction. There's a difference between loving people and losing yourself in the process. Looking back, that season of my life—what I thought would break me—became my greatest teacher.

I was determined to find that other way to live - to serve from a place of wholeness instead of depletion. But somewhere in my search, I started thinking like most women do - that I needed to be fixed.

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So I tried to
"fix" myself:

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Meeting new people, hoping connection would fill the ache

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Growing closer to God, but too busy fixing myself to rest in His love

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Getting a makeover, thinking new me on the outside meant new me on the inside

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Chasing one self-improvement goal after another instead of simply being enough

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Staying busy with endless plans to avoid being alone with the truth

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And yes, therapy- understanding why I felt empty but still not knowing how to fill it

"Therapy helped me name the ache. But when I left the office, I still didn't know how to live differently in the moments that mattered most."
"Because insight without practice is like diagnosis without medicine."

"What I needed was something to hold me daily.

So I created Beherence."

Beherence ISN'T:

  • ✗ Journal prompts that tell you to "take a bubble bath" when you're at your breaking point
  • ✗ About forcing yourself to be positive when you need to process pain
  • ✗ Another system designed to make you feel guilty about your "lack of discipline"

Beherence IS:

  • ✓ A gentle practice of being her again - your truest self through presence and self-devotion
  • ✓ Real questions that meet you where you are - tired, overwhelmed, human
  • ✓ Something you live inside of - a rhythm that holds you through the hard days
  • ✓ The first space designed for women who are exhausted from holding everyone else together

I created it for me first, when I was drowning in everyone else's needs and couldn't find anything that actually held me.

I needed daily practices that felt like self-care, not self-discipline. A method that met me in my exhaustion, not my potential.

Not to fix myself, but to meet myself.

And now, I'm preparing it for you too.

What holds it all together and makes it work are nine emotional truths I had to learn the hard way.

These truths will feel familiar, you've lived them before, These truths will feel familiar,
you've lived them before,

But occasional practice doesn't create lasting change. But occasional practice doesn't
create lasting change.

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BE KIND TO YOUR BODY

Because healing starts with physical awareness. Move for 30 min, hydrate with intention.

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EAT WITH INTENTION

Transform your relationship with nourishment. No shame, just conscious choices.

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HOLD SACRED SPACE

Prioritize content that grows you. Protection through intentional consumption.

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EMBODY YOUR WORTH

How you present yourself is self-communication. Dress for you, care for you.

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RECLAIM YOUR VOICE

Each "no" is a profound "yes" to your peace. One boundary honored daily.

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EMBRACE QUIET WINS

Celebrate the subtle victories. See your progress without external validation.

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NURTURE YOUR WHOLENESS

Solo dates as radical self-love. Proving you're complete on your own.

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CAPTURE YOUR BECOMING

Weekly photos to witness transformation. Visual evidence of your journey.

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EVOLVE THROUGH REFLECTION

Daily journaling as ongoing discovery. A dialogue with your becoming self.

Beherence gave me the structure to be consistent with these truths.

To stop slipping back into survival the moment things got hard. It turned the things I used to do sometimes into who I became.

I didn’t need more time. I needed a system that worked. It didn’t take years to come back to myself. This is what I'm building for you.

It took 90 days of finally

choosing me - on purpose.

This is what changed for me,
and this is what's about to change for YOU:

ROUTINE

You'll learn how to take care of yourself before the world starts demanding.

  • You stop waking up already behind.
  • You get dressed before the day takes you.
  • You nourish yourself before you pour into anyone else.
  • No guilt. No apology. Just order and it starts with you.
JOY

You'll learn how to feel joy inside your real routine, not just on vacation.

  • You dance while making breakfast.
  • You savor your coffee instead of chugging it.
  • You stop saving your "good" self for special occasions.
  • You find happiness in what's already yours.
ENERGY

You'll learn how to stop running on empty and calling it strength.

  • You rest before crashing..
  • You pause before yelling.
  • You drink water before the headache hits.
  • You stop waiting for a breakdown to finally pay attention to your body.
BOUNDARIES

You'll learn how to create boundaries that protect your peace—even from yourself.

  • You stop scrolling until numb, and start protecting your mental space.
  • You limit what you take in—not just what you give out.
  • You stop saying "yes" to things your body already said "no" to.
  • You learn that boundaries aren't about controlling others—they're about staying connected to yourself.
PRESENCE

You'll learn how to reclaim small moments that used to slip away.

  • You light a candle at night, not for aesthetics, but for presence.
  • You journal for 5 minutes and stop dissociating.
  • You look up from your phone and actually feel your life again.
FAMILY

You'll learn how to show up for your family after showing up for yourself.

  • You stop resenting the people you love most.
  • You don't snap at your kids or partner out of exhaustion.
  • You pour from a full cup not a cracked one, because you filled it first.
SELF-RESPECT

You'll learn how to exist without over-explaining, over-committing, or over-giving.

  • You don't fake cheerful replies anymore.
  • You say "I'm not available for that" without guilt.
  • You stop stretching yourself thin to prove you can "handle it all."
  • You realize you don't have to justify your rest, your no, or your needs.
RELATIONSHIPS

You'll learn that real love doesn't require you to disappear.

  • You stop calling breadcrumbs a feast.
  • You quit auditioning for love that should be freely given.
  • You don't abandon yourself to avoid being abandoned.
  • You start experiencing love that doesn't cost your identity.
PEACE

You'll learn that peace isn't something you earn, it's something you protect.

  • You stop earning your right to exist.
  • You quit negotiating with people who drain you
  • You create structure that holds you not just chaos that drains you.
ENOUGH

You'll learn that you were never asking for too much.

  • You stop performing "gratitude" for things that barely meet your needs.
  • You stop calling your exhaustion a blessing.
  • You start asking more and receiving it because you finally believe you're allowed to.
WHOLENESS

You'll learn how to come back to yourself and stay there this time.

  • You stop waiting for life to calm down before you care for yourself.
  • You begin treating presence as power not performance.
  • You find safety, not just in your routines, but in yourself.
  • And you never abandon her again.

As you'll see, this journey is going to be beautiful and transformative. And it's also going to have difficult moments when you feel numb, when you want to reach out to people who hurt you, or when you want to abandon your progress. I needed these pages on my hardest days, and maybe you will too.

That's why I'm including the guides I wish someone handed me at 2am:

Devoted to Me

I'M NOT BEING DISTANT. I'M BEING DEVOTED (TO ME)

A Guide for Setting Boundaries

For when saying no feels impossible but saying yes is killing you slowly. Learn to protect your heart—without apologizing for it.

Healing After Betrayal

WHAT THEY DID ISN'T WHO YOU ARE

A Guide for Healing After Betrayal

When someone's betrayal makes you question everything about yourself. How to stop carrying their shame and remember who you really are.

Reach In

WHEN YOU WANT TO
REACH OUT, REACH IN

A Guide for When You Miss What Hurt You

For those 2am moments when you're staring at their contact, missing someone who broke you. What to do instead of going back.

When Healing Feels Hard

WHEN HEALING FEELS HARD

A Reflection Guide for the Days That Don't Feel Like Growth

For when you're tired of being strong, tired of healing, and wondering if you'll ever feel whole again. Gentle words for your heaviest days.

+ Private Community Access

I'm building the kind of supportive space I wish I had when I started where your growth doesn't have to be loud to be real. This is peer-led support, women holding space for other women.

Real Encouragement

Authentic support from women who understand the journey

Quiet Accountability

Stay connected or be held from a distance—your choice

Coming Soon:

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Optional Licensed Therapist Check-ins

Professional guidance when you need help processing what comes up or moving through emotional blocks that feel too heavy to carry alone

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Joy Prizes & Self-Care Rewards

Monthly prizes to celebrate your healing journey for sponsored solo dates, fresh outfits, spa days, or that makeover, because your growth deserves to be rewarded

I needed more than a journal. I needed a practice, a community, and permission to enjoy becoming again.

You will too.

You're probably wondering what each month will actually feel like for you...

Month One: The Pause Feels Too Loud

"At first, there's just silence. No one needing anything. No one waiting for you to hold everything together. You should feel free, but instead you feel… exposed."

What begins to shift:

  • You stop filling your calendar just to avoid your feelings.
  • You realize you don't want them back — or who you were when they were around.
  • You recognize that no one is coming to rescue you. And that terrifies you — until it doesn't.
  • You start doing small things just for you — and you don't apologize for them.

"You're not lonely. You're early in the becoming."

Month Two: You Don't Miss the Chaos — You Miss Yourself

"The noise quiets. The guilt fades. You start noticing the ways you've neglected yourself — not just recently, but for years."

What you begin to reclaim:

  • You catch yourself mid-sacrifice — and choose not to.
  • You stop explaining your boundaries to people who ignore them anyway.
  • You no longer feel responsible for everyone's comfort.
  • You choose your energy like it's sacred — because now it is.

"You're not healing to go back to who you were. You're healing because you've outgrown that version of you."

Month Three: Fully Alive, Fully You

"You wake up and don't feel like you owe the world a version of you that's easier to love."

What your life starts to look like:

  • You stop ruminating about who hurt you — you're too full to care.
  • You wake up excited to do for yourself — not just to survive, but to enjoy.
  • You don't let a day pass without doing something that delights you.
  • You finally enjoy being alone — not because you have to be, but because you want to be.
  • Settling is no longer an option. Not because it's wrong — but because it just doesn't fit anymore.

"You don't just exist. You enjoy. You choose. You belong to yourself now."

Here's what I know about you…

You've bought journals before. You've downloaded the apps and saved the quotes. You've tried morning routines, gratitude lists, affirmations in the mirror. You've told yourself "this time will be different." And maybe it was. For a few days.

This isn't that. This isn't another thing to add to your routine and feel guilty about when you miss a day. This isn't about becoming your best self or hitting a goal weight or manifestation.

This is the structure I needed when motivation wasn't enough. When I didn't want to fix myself, I just wanted to meet who I was before I started shrinking. When I needed something that would hold me on the days I forgot how to hold myself.

What happens when you join the waitlist?

  1. You'll get an email from me when it's ready to launch.
  2. You'll have first access—before I tell anyone else.
  3. You'll receive something I created just for the women who waited with me.

No countdown timers. No fake scarcity. No "only 3 spots left" nonsense. Just: you'll be the first to know when it's time.

Yes, hold my space

One more thing: The women who join the waitlist now will receive something extra. I'm not going to tell you what it is yet. But when it arrives in your inbox, you'll know exactly why I made it. Consider it a thank you for trusting me before this was finished.