BEHERENCE
You've Been Holding It Together for So Long. Now It's Time to Be Held - By You.
Discover the
Beherence Method
A 90-Day Guided Journal
& Healing Practice That Doesn't
Ask You to Fix Yourself
- Only to Return to You.
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"I kept avoiding the weekly challenges thinking they'd be too intense, but Week 5 hit me different. Realized I literally can't let people finish talking without jumping in to help or fix something. It wasn't some big breakdown, just like 'wow, I really do this constantly.' The daily check-ins are simple but they helped me start noticing when I actually felt like myself versus when I was just going through the motions."
— Maya.S -
"Week 7's challenge about writing down why you keep doing something that hurts wasn't news to me. I already knew I stay in situations where I'm giving more because I hate being alone. But something about doing the solo dates and daily check-ins made being with myself feel less scary? Like I started looking forward to quiet time instead of filling every moment with people or distractions. Still not perfect at it but I don't panic about being alone anymore."
— Alisha.F -
"My friend recommended this after I complained about feeling invisible at work. The daily check ins ask when you felt most like yourself and I kept leaving it blank because honestly I had no idea anymore. Been on autopilot so long I forgot what being myself even felt like. Few weeks in and I'm actually starting to notice when I'm present vs just existing."
— Sade.B
If you're still feeling lost right now, you're not alone—keep reading.
You know that feeling when everyone thinks you have it all together,
but you're barely keeping your head above water?
You're the friend everyone calls at 2am. The daughter who never asks for help. The mother who handles everything so no one else has to worry. The partner who keeps the peace. The one who always has a solution. And you're absolutely exhausted from being
everyone's savior except your own.
Everyone thinks you're doing amazing. You have a good job, you show up for people, you handle your business, you have somewhere to live. You tell yourself you should be more grateful. That other people have it worse. That maybe you just need to stop comparing your life to others.
So why do you still feel like you're drowning in your own life?
IT DIDN'T HAPPEN ALL AT ONCE, IT HAPPENED:
You became the strong one. The dependable one. The fixer.
The woman who smiled while she was drowning.
"I know because I was her too."
I spent years being who I thought I should be, until the day it all fell apart.
I kept myself busy being single, doing things I loved, living my life, serving God. Being a giver and a nice person had gotten me nice things - a good job, a nice place, good friends. But beneath it all, I felt lonely and empty. I'd spent years as the funny friend, watching love happen to other people while I remained safely on the sidelines. But as I grew into myself and became more confident, everything changed. Suddenly I wasn't invisible anymore - I was seen, desired. I didn't just want to be wanted though - I wanted to be truly loved for who I really was.
And then I met him, the one who I was waiting for. I felt seen in a way I'd never had. Finally someone who wanted to take care of me - or so I thought. We got married and that's when everything changed. His behaviors had started shifting months after our engagement and only got worse once we were married. I reacted the only way I knew how - by sacrificing more of myself to keep the peace. Every boundary I thought I had crumbled. That's when it hit me, this wasn't new. I'd been doing this my whole life, always the friend who dropped everything to help, the daughter who smoothed over family tension. I'd just never been with someone who would take everything I offered.
I bent myself backward trying to be everything he needed, believing that if I just loved hard enough, I'd finally be worthy of love. When I realized I was drowning, I felt guilty for wanting to pull back. I handed myself over, piece by piece, believing that my worth lived in how much I could endure, how much I could give, how little I could need. The affair wasn't just a betrayal of me and God - it was a mirror. He had no problem putting himself first, making choices that served him, while I had spent our entire marriage sacrificing everything, believing that choosing myself was selfish. I woke up one day a stranger in my own life - numb, hollow, resentful.
It took losing myself completely to understand that love isn't supposed to cost you your identity. That somewhere along the way, I'd confused devotion with self-destruction. There's a difference between loving someone and losing yourself in the process. Looking back, that marriage that lasted barely a year became my most profound teacher.
I was determined to find that other way to live - to serve from a place of wholeness instead of depletion. But somewhere in my search, I started thinking like most women do - that I needed to be fixed.
So I tried to
"fix" myself:
Meeting new people, hoping connection would fill the ache
Growing closer to God, but too busy fixing myself to rest in His love
Getting a makeover, thinking new me on the outside meant new me on the inside
Chasing one self-improvement goal after another instead of simply being enough
Staying busy with endless plans to avoid being alone with the truth
And yes, therapy- understanding why I felt empty but still not knowing how to fill it
"Therapy helped me name the ache. But when I left the office, I still didn't know how to live differently in the moments that mattered most."
"What I needed was something to hold me daily.
So I created Beherence."
Beherence ISN'T:
- ✗ Journal prompts that tell you to "take a bubble bath" when you're at your breaking point
- ✗ About forcing yourself to be positive when you need to process pain
- ✗ Another system designed to make you feel guilty about your "lack of discipline"
Beherence IS:
- ✓ A gentle practice of being her again - your truest self through presence and self-devotion
- ✓ Real questions that meet you where you are - tired, overwhelmed, human
- ✓ Something you live inside of - a rhythm that holds you through the hard days
- ✓ The first space designed for women who are exhausted from holding everyone else together
I created it for me first, when I was drowning in everyone else's needs and couldn't find anything that actually held me.
I needed daily practices that felt like self-care, not self-discipline. A method that met me in my exhaustion, not my potential.
Not to fix myself, but to remember myself.
And now it's yours, too.
What holds it all together and makes it work are nine emotional truths I had to learn the hard way.
These truths will feel familiar, you've lived them before,
These truths will feel familiar,
you've lived them before,
But occasional practice doesn't create lasting change.
But occasional practice doesn't
create lasting change.
BE KIND TO YOUR BODY
Because healing starts with physical awareness. Move for 30 min, hydrate with intention.
EAT WITH INTENTION
Transform your relationship with nourishment. No shame, just conscious choices.
HOLD SACRED SPACE
Prioritize content that grows you. Protection through intentional consumption.
EMBODY YOUR WORTH
How you present yourself is self-communication. Dress for you, care for you.
RECLAIM YOUR VOICE
Each "no" is a profound "yes" to your peace. One boundary honored daily.
EMBRACE QUIET WINS
Celebrate the subtle victories. See your progress without external validation.
NURTURE YOUR WHOLENESS
Solo dates as radical self-love. Proving you're complete on your own.
CAPTURE YOUR BECOMING
Weekly photos to witness transformation. Visual evidence of your journey.
EVOLVE THROUGH REFLECTION
Daily journaling as ongoing discovery. A dialogue with your becoming self.
Beherence gave me the structure to be consistent with these truths.
To stop slipping back into survival the moment things got hard. It turned the things I used to do sometimes into who I became.
I didn’t need more time. I needed a system that worked. It didn’t take years to come back to myself.
It took 90 days of finally
choosing me - on purpose.
This is what changed for me,
and this is what's about to change for YOU:
You'll learn how to take care of yourself before the world starts demanding.
- You stop waking up already behind.
- You get dressed before the day takes you.
- You nourish yourself before you pour into anyone else.
- No guilt. No apology. Just order and it starts with you.
You'll learn how to feel joy inside your real routine, not just on vacation.
- You dance while making breakfast.
- You savor your coffee instead of chugging it.
- You stop saving your "good" self for special occasions.
- You find happiness in what's already yours.
You'll learn how to stop running on empty and calling it strength.
- You rest before crashing..
- You pause before yelling.
- You drink water before the headache hits.
- You stop waiting for a breakdown to finally pay attention to your body.
You'll learn how to create boundaries that protect your peace—even from yourself.
- You stop scrolling until numb, and start protecting your mental space.
- You limit what you take in—not just what you give out.
- You stop saying "yes" to things your body already said "no" to.
- You learn that boundaries aren't about controlling others—they're about staying connected to yourself.
You'll learn how to reclaim small moments that used to slip away.
- You light a candle at night, not for aesthetics, but for presence.
- You journal for 5 minutes and stop dissociating.
- You look up from your phone and actually feel your life again.
You'll learn how to show up for your family after showing up for yourself.
- You stop resenting the people you love most.
- You don't snap at your kids or partner out of exhaustion.
- You pour from a full cup not a cracked one, because you filled it first.
You'll learn how to exist without over-explaining, over-committing, or over-giving.
- You don't fake cheerful replies anymore.
- You say "I'm not available for that" without guilt.
- You stop stretching yourself thin to prove you can "handle it all."
- You realize you don't have to justify your rest, your no, or your needs.
You'll learn that real love doesn't require you to disappear.
- You stop calling breadcrumbs a feast.
- You quit auditioning for love that should be freely given.
- You don't abandon yourself to avoid being abandoned.
- You start experiencing love that doesn't cost your identity.
You'll learn that peace isn't something you earn, it's something you protect.
- You stop earning your right to exist.
- You quit negotiating with people who drain you
- You create structure that holds you not just chaos that drains you.
You'll learn that you were never asking for too much.
- You stop performing "gratitude" for things that barely meet your needs.
- You stop calling your exhaustion a blessing.
- You start asking more and receiving it because you finally believe you're allowed to.
You'll learn how to come back to yourself and stay there this time.
- You stop waiting for life to calm down before you care for yourself.
- You begin treating presence as power not performance.
- You find safety, not just in your routines, but in yourself.
- And you never abandon her again.
As you'll see, this journey is going to be beautiful and transformative. And it's also going to have difficult moments when you feel numb, when you want to reach out to people who hurt you, or when you want to abandon your progress. I needed these pages on my hardest days, and maybe you will too.
So I'm giving you four FREE bonus guides to help you pause, breathe, and choose yourself gently:
I'M NOT BEING DISTANT. I'M BEING DEVOTED (TO ME)
A Guide for Setting Boundaries
For when saying no feels impossible but saying yes is killing you slowly. Learn to protect your heart—without apologizing for it.
WHAT THEY DID ISN'T WHO YOU ARE
A Guide for Healing After Betrayal
When someone's betrayal makes you question everything about yourself. How to stop carrying their shame and remember who you really are.
WHEN YOU WANT TO
REACH OUT, REACH IN
A Guide for When You Miss What Hurt You
For those 2am moments when you're staring at their contact, missing someone who broke you. What to do instead of going back.
WHEN HEALING FEELS HARD
A Reflection Guide for the Days That Don't Feel Like Growth
For when you're tired of being strong, tired of healing, and wondering if you'll ever feel whole again. Gentle words for your heaviest days.
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I needed more than reflection. I needed support and permission to enjoy becoming again.
Hear from women who are walking this same path with me:
"I bought this right after a breakup that had me questioning everything — if I was too much, not enough, or just easy to leave. I used to check his page every morning. I replayed the last conversation in my head for weeks. But this journal slowly shifted something. I stopped chasing closure. I stopped performing healing to prove I was over it. And eventually… I stopped wanting him to come back. Not out of anger — out of peace. I realized I was never really asking for him. I was asking for myself."
— Kylie B.
"I was the kind of woman who remembered every dentist appointment, every birthday, every bill. I packed lunches. I double-checked school bags. I made sure my husband didn't miss his doctor's visits. I handled everything — except myself. And I didn't even realize how angry I had become until I started writing. This journal didn't shame me or tell me to 'just take a bubble bath.' It reminded me that I exist, too. That I matter before the laundry, before the groceries, before the to-do list. And that when I'm cared for, everything else flows softer."
— Tamara L.
"I used to think love meant always being available. Always saying yes. Always fixing. But this journal taught me boundaries without bitterness. I don't have to overextend to prove I care. I can say 'I need a minute' without guilt. I'm still learning. But the peace in my relationship didn't come from doing more — it came from being more me."
— Sierra L.
"I didn't expect anything from this. I've bought journals before. I've downloaded planners. I always drop them after a week. But this one felt different. I didn't feel like I had to become a new person. I just had to sit with myself—one page at a time. And somewhere in there, I stopped rushing. I started resting. And now… I look forward to mornings again."
— Janelle R.
"When I ordered this, I was in the middle of pretending I was fine. Smiling through stuff I hadn't even processed. The first week was confronting. I kept stopping and walking away. But I always came back to the page. And somehow, the page always had room for me. This isn't about self-help. It's about self-remembering. I feel like I'm finally home in my own body again."
— Chelsea D.
After reading those reviews, you're probably wondering what each month will actually feel like for you...
Month One: The Pause Feels Too Loud
"At first, there's just silence. No one needing anything. No one waiting for you to hold everything together. You should feel free, but instead you feel… exposed."
What begins to shift:
- You stop filling your calendar just to avoid your feelings.
- You realize you don't want them back — or who you were when they were around.
- You recognize that no one is coming to rescue you. And that terrifies you — until it doesn't.
- You start doing small things just for you — and you don't apologize for them.
"You're not lonely. You're early in the becoming."
Month Two: You Don't Miss the Chaos — You Miss Yourself
"The noise quiets. The guilt fades. You start noticing the ways you've neglected yourself — not just recently, but for years."
What you begin to reclaim:
- You catch yourself mid-sacrifice — and choose not to.
- You stop explaining your boundaries to people who ignore them anyway.
- You no longer feel responsible for everyone's comfort.
- You choose your energy like it's sacred — because now it is.
"You're not healing to go back to who you were. You're healing because you've outgrown that version of you."
Month Three: Fully Alive, Fully You
"You wake up and don't feel like you owe the world a version of you that's easier to love."
What your life starts to look like:
- You stop ruminating about who hurt you — you're too full to care.
- You wake up excited to do for yourself — not just to survive, but to enjoy.
- You don't let a day pass without doing something that delights you.
- You finally enjoy being alone — not because you have to be, but because you want to be.
- Settling is no longer an option. Not because it's wrong — but because it just doesn't fit anymore.
"You don't just exist. You enjoy. You choose. You belong to yourself now."
That's when Beherence was born - not from brokenness, but from knowing I needed to return to myself. You've seen what's possible when women stop abandoning themselves. I know you're ready because I see the same woman in you that I was - tired of living as a stranger in her own life. This is how you choose yourself again.
Time to give yourself permission to choose you.
Here's Everything Included
For Your 90 Day Journey Back to You:
Included:
- ✓ 90-Day Beherence Journal (Digital PDF)
- ✓ Private Community Access
- ✓ 4 Bonus Healing Guides
- ✓ Lifetime Updates to the Program
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